Martin is concerned the perceptions others have of him are set, and are not all positive. "Is there a way I can change how people view me?" he asks.

Congratulations. You have taken a hard look in the mirror and have been honest with yourself about your actions, interactions and possible consequences.

We can change perceptions. It takes consciousness, work and time.

Start with a self audit. How do you look and sound? What messages are you communicating both verbally and non-verbally to others? Seek honest feedback from a trusted friend. Determine what visible changes can you make so that others begin seeing the difference?

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