Deliberately control your self-talk. Do not allow any putdowns or hostility toward yourself or others around you. No sarcastic statements, no cutdowns (even for fun). The subconscious cannot take a joke.

If you find you're in a situation where the self-talk of the group is negative, experiment with changing the group self-talk to a more positive note, without telling the group what you are doing.

If you slip and put yourself down or put someone else down, immediately reprogram your self-talk by saying "That's not like me. I constantly find ways to put myself and others up".